Dressing for YOU vs. Dressing for your shape…

Dressing for YOU vs. Dressing for your shape…

wearing what makes you happy

I don’t know what it is about winter than has me immediately climbing into a never ending list of all black ensembles, perhaps it’s the dull weather that allows me to get away with it, but after a recent #ootd session in which I happened to be wearing one of said all black outfits I realised they don’t perhaps look as effortlessly chic as I have always imagined.

SO, this season I have made a concerted effort to step outside of my comfort zone and opt for more ‘statement’ pieces- they might not be that statement for most people but when 90% of your wardrobe is monochrome a splash of colour is a BIG DEAL. Especially when it’s more that one colour at any one time!

This Missguided number has been my saviour thus far, whilst it’s definitely not the most flattering item of clothing I own I’ve come to realise that it doesn’t matter if not allll your outfits make you look your best- sometimes you’ve got to throw dressing for your shape out of the window and wear something just because you like it- maybe it’s super cosy, maybe it makes you happy, or more to the point do you even need a reason?! If you like something surely that’s the only reason you need?

wearing what makes you happy

dressing for you and not your shape

It took me a while to come around to this way of thinking, despite how much I love the pastel stripes and humongously over-sized fit now, the jumper sat in it’s Asos packaging for almost the full 30 day return period as I couldn’t pluck up the courage to wear something so bold knowing it did nothing for me in superficial terms- did I really want to be grabbing peoples’ attention looking so bad? (bad is no doubt an exaggeration but relatively speaking here, it’s probably the most unflattering item I own and willingly wear)

I even ordered it in multiple sizes; 1, 2 and 3 smaller than I normally wear hoping that it would look a little better at least but the extremely square fit remained, so I decided to bite the bullet- besides the oversized fit means I can eat as much as I want and never need to worry about any signs of bloating!

The moral of the story? Wear whatever makes you happy- sometimes the smile on your face & the confidence you hold wearing something you love makes it all worth it, and if you love what you’re wearing, does it really matter if it’s a little unflattering?

I can’t help thinking that when I’m worrying about whether or not I look good in clothes I can get in a bit of a rut and wear the same things over and over, too scared to try new items in case they make me look bigger/shorter/shapeless/whatever it may be & the same for shoes- forever worrying whether they make my feet look like boats or not.

There’s obviously certain occasions when I most definitely do want look my best and thus dress accordingly, especially those I know will be photographed and immortalised. And there’s also no doubt that knowing you look as good as you can is a confidence boost in itself.

Despite this, those who know you will regularly see you at all ends of the spectrum and won’t be worried if one item makes you look a little bit this or that and those that pass judgement are probably the kind of people you don’t really need around and you definitely don’t need them calling the shots when it comes to how YOU dress.

Talking statement knitwear and why you don't always have to look your best

To make matters even better, I’ve received so many compliments on the jumper- both from strangers and friends! Now you’d have to wrestle it out of my hands. Don’t you love a happy ending?

Do you find yourself always going for the same styles and shapes for fear of not looking your best? Are you scared to try out new clothes? Or do you always just wear whatever takes your fancy regardless? I’d love to know your thoughts on dressing for your shape vs. dressing for you (& your happiness).

Black may be a failsafe, but it doesn’t mean that it always looks good- unless it’s an LBD- always go with the LBD.

Tara x

dressing for you and not your shape

  • Chloe

    Hi, I love the colours of your striped jumper, comfort is key not what is the most flattering for a body shape, I think it looks fab with the jeans.

  • I love the striped jumper, but I totally agree with you that this would be out of my comfort zone a lot! I’m not one for bright colours either x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿www.kayleighzaraa.com

  • This is wonderful!
    A few years ago all I wore was black. Then I discovered how nice I look in yellow. Then pink. Then red. And now I don’t have a single black item in my wardrobe 🙈
    Alice | Dainty Alice

  • Hannah Kaye Tindale

    I loved this post, recently I’ve been very self conscious about what I wear and how I am wearing and trying to stay in my comfort zone. Just a beautiful post and loved the jumper, it goes so well with your jeans and I think it really suits you!


  • This stripped jumper is amazing! I love all the colors! I am always a bit scared to leave my fashion comfort zone but never disappointed when I actually do! xx corinne

  • Louise ⛄️

    This jumper looks amazing on you! I feel like knitwear makes me look even bigger than I am but I want this jumper so much that I feel I should just buy it! Great post lovely x

  • a n d i ✨

    As much as I love winter, I just end accepting the fact I’m going to look like a flump regardless of what I wear because hoodies and jumpers and fur lined jackets are the best things ever, and I like to be warm and eat lots of food and these clothes allow me to do that.. 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ You look bloody gorgeous anyway, and those colours really suit you! 🖤

  • Kitty Banks

    I absolutely love this jumper! I love the colours and I actually think it looks great on you! I totally understand having to work to come around to this way of thinking. I’m really skinny, and oversized jumpers can make me look dwarfed and sickly, but I do love the cosiness of them so I’m definitely trying not to care and to just wear things because I like them. This was a lovely and inspirational post! Thank you!


  • Sinéad Danielle ✿

    Ahh girl I loved this! You’re so right – we spend so much time worrying about what’s flattering or looking trying to make our bodies look a certain way with how we dress that we forget to just have fun with fashion! I’m totally with you and I actually believe that it doesn’t matter how much something is ‘flattering’ – if you’re not comfortable in it it just will not look good! You’re rocking this jumper, I know you said you don’t think it’s flattering but you can see how comfortable you are in it and honestly that’s the most flattering thing a piece of clothing can be!!!

    Sinéad xo Fabuleuse Du Jour