I don’t know what it is about winter than has me immediately climbing into a never ending list of all black ensembles, perhaps it’s the dull weather that allows me to get away with it, but after a recent #ootd session in which I happened to be wearing one of said all black outfits I realised they don’t perhaps look as effortlessly chic as I have always imagined.
SO, this season I have made a concerted effort to step outside of my comfort zone and opt for more ‘statement’ pieces- they might not be that statement for most people but when 90% of your wardrobe is monochrome a splash of colour is a BIG DEAL. Especially when it’s more that one colour at any one time!
This Missguided number has been my saviour thus far, whilst it’s definitely not the most flattering item of clothing I own I’ve come to realise that it doesn’t matter if not allll your outfits make you look your best- sometimes you’ve got to throw dressing for your shape out of the window and wear something just because you like it- maybe it’s super cosy, maybe it makes you happy, or more to the point do you even need a reason?! If you like something surely that’s the only reason you need?
It took me a while to come around to this way of thinking, despite how much I love the pastel stripes and humongously over-sized fit now, the jumper sat in it’s Asos packaging for almost the full 30 day return period as I couldn’t pluck up the courage to wear something so bold knowing it did nothing for me in superficial terms- did I really want to be grabbing peoples’ attention looking so bad? (bad is no doubt an exaggeration but relatively speaking here, it’s probably the most unflattering item I own and willingly wear)
I even ordered it in multiple sizes; 1, 2 and 3 smaller than I normally wear hoping that it would look a little better at least but the extremely square fit remained, so I decided to bite the bullet- besides the oversized fit means I can eat as much as I want and never need to worry about any signs of bloating!
The moral of the story? Wear whatever makes you happy- sometimes the smile on your face & the confidence you hold wearing something you love makes it all worth it, and if you love what you’re wearing, does it really matter if it’s a little unflattering?
I can’t help thinking that when I’m worrying about whether or not I look good in clothes I can get in a bit of a rut and wear the same things over and over, too scared to try new items in case they make me look bigger/shorter/shapeless/whatever it may be & the same for shoes- forever worrying whether they make my feet look like boats or not.
There’s obviously certain occasions when I most definitely do want look my best and thus dress accordingly, especially those I know will be photographed and immortalised. And there’s also no doubt that knowing you look as good as you can is a confidence boost in itself.
Despite this, those who know you will regularly see you at all ends of the spectrum and won’t be worried if one item makes you look a little bit this or that and those that pass judgement are probably the kind of people you don’t really need around and you definitely don’t need them calling the shots when it comes to how YOU dress.
To make matters even better, I’ve received so many compliments on the jumper- both from strangers and friends! Now you’d have to wrestle it out of my hands. Don’t you love a happy ending?
Do you find yourself always going for the same styles and shapes for fear of not looking your best? Are you scared to try out new clothes? Or do you always just wear whatever takes your fancy regardless? I’d love to know your thoughts on dressing for your shape vs. dressing for you (& your happiness).
Black may be a failsafe, but it doesn’t mean that it always looks good- unless it’s an LBD- always go with the LBD.