I Got It from My Mama…

I Got It from My Mama…

I know I’ve been very absent around here lately and it’s beyond ironic that my last post was about juggling blogging and uni yet here am I definitely not finding the balance. BUT it’s 3rd year and when it comes to getting my dissertation done and done to a good standard I don’t think I really want to be trying to juggle it with anything! Plus, thus far it has meant spending 10 hours a day, every day, for the last two weeks, in the British Library looking at copies of the Yorkshire Post from the 1980s (& I’m only at ’85 so there’s gonna be a few more weeks by the looks of things). Trying to even string a sentence together once I leave is hard enough never mind trying to write and find time to photograph a blog post.

SO basically I just wanna say a quick sorry and also bear with me- in 8 weeks time I’LL BE FINISHED FOREVER and things will get a whole lot busier around here, plus the nights will be getting lighter and fitting everything in will become so much easier with those extra hours.

Anyway, I hadn’t planned to write a post for Mother’s Day but here I am spending Mother’s Day without my momma for the first time ever- does this make me an adult now?- and It’s got me all nostalgic and so so grateful

For most of us, our mums are our first friends, our first teachers and probably the first people we argue with. Even though we might not remember any of that there are definitely SO MANY things that we learn from our wonderful mothers. Whilst I can’t really say my love for baking, beauty or blogging came from my wonder woman there are plenty of life lessons I’m so thankful for…

  1. Don’t mess with your hair– perms may have been in in the 1980s but it definitely wasn’t worth the consequences of fine hair in later life, and you might think you want short hair but once it won’t grow back you’ll be sorry you ever cut it off- just some of the first hand experiences that mean I don’t do anything to my hair without proper consideration- although I somehow thought a huge side fringe was a good decision in my teens, luckily that hasn’t had such long term implications
  2. If you’ve don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all; I can’t even count the amount of times I heard this as a kid and I’m sure my mum got so sick of saying it but it’s so true. Nasty words say more about you than the person they’re directed at and they’re a waste of time and energy, think about something positive instead and move on.
  3. Material things aren’t important, and whilst I do love luxury the real things that matter in life are those you love and the experiences you have. After all, you can’t take your possessions with you but you can leave people with fond memories.
  4. Don’t park over a drain and get out of the car with your phone on your knee: this one has to be the most niche of the bunch but sadly my mum has done it more than a couple of times and I NEVER want to have to be searching for my phone or keys in waste water.
  5. Help people whenever you can, you don’t know when you’ll need someone to help you. That person who’s just stopped traffic to help the elderly lady cross the road? The person who’s on her hands and knees helping a stranger who’s just fainted outside the school gates waiting for his young child? That was probably my mum. If she had been at Westminster on Wednesday I have no doubt at all that she would have been there right with Tobias Ellwood and Tony Davis- I hope one day I will have the same instinctive reactions as her but for now I do my best to practice on a smaller scale and in my opinion it’s something we all need to do more. Help the lone parent lift the buggy up the stairs at the tube station, pick up a shop display that someone accidentally knocked down- it will take you a few extra moments but it will make the other persons life a whole lot easier.

Obviously this is but a few of the things she’s passed on to me, there are many more things that she’s taught me and so so many more that I don’t even realise came from her. She’s also passed on the last minute Annie gene, the forgetful one and the world’s biggest sweet tooth; so it’s not all sunshine and roses.

What’s your mum taught you? Or maybe your grandma had a huge influence in your life? I know I’ve learnt just as much from my siblings as I have from my parents and there are so many amazing women out there who aren’t related to me that have passed on such valuable sentiments.

My mum is the ultimate problem solver- there is nothing she can’t fix and there is nothing she can’t do when she puts her mind to it. She is creative and determined and has taught me that everything is possible you just have to find the right way to go about it.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the wonderful mums, step-mums, mums-to-be, mums of angels and mother figures whoever they may be.

Tara xo